The Best and Worst Things People Say When a Pet Dies
When a pet dies, people can say some not-so-comforting things. While they don’t mean to be rude, it can be quite difficult to stomach. The following are some of the things that people say when a pet dies, so you know that it really isn’t just you hearing them.
The Best Things People Say
- I remember when your pet….
- I am always available if you need to talk.
- I’m so sorry.
- I wish I knew what to say, but please know that I care about you.
- You are in my thoughts and prayers.
- Can I please hug you?
- I don’t mind coming over to your house whenever you need me.
- Can we spend some time together?
- I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now.
- Let me know how to help you.
The Worst Things People Say
- At least your pet lived for a long time and had a good life.
- Your pet is in a better place.
- He or she shouldn’t have run away.
- It was meant to be.
- Everything happens for a reason.
- Are you still crying?
- You can always get another pet.
- I know how you feel.
- Stay strong.
- It was your pet’s time.
- Aren’t you over this yet?
How to Deal with People’s Insensitivity
Know that most of the time, people do not say things to hurt you. They believe they are being helpful. They think that there is nothing wrong with what they are saying to you. When you know it’s coming from a good place, it can make you a little softer.
Feeling softer will help you approach the person with a clear mind. All you have to say is thank you for caring, and know that you won’t be able to turn to that person for support. That person may not be able to give you what you need, and spending more time with him or her or wishing that he or she will say what you need to hear will only make you feel worse. Simply distant yourself from the people who are unable to support you in the way you need, and run to the ones you do.
If you do not have anyone in your life who can help you in the way you need it right now, you may want to consider speaking to a counselor. Bereavement counselors know how to help people who have lost someone close to them – and it’s not just for losing human loved ones. Many bereavement counselors know that people can have the same feelings when they lose a pet as they do when they lose a family member or friend. Ask if the counselor you want to use has experience helping people who have lost their pet.
We are here for you. We hope you find the support you need during this difficult time.